Allow Your Life

What you love you empower-what you fear you empower-and what you empower you attract.–Author Unknown

Empowering Yourself

Empower means: the power to make choices relevant to one’s situation, acting with confidence. It’s about realizing that you have the power to take control of your own destiny and make the choice to live the life you desire.

Empowering yourself is possibly the most important thing you can in terms of realizing your true desires. Your thoughts and feelings go hand in hand. If you spend much of your time self-identifying with negativity, and self-loathing then this becomes your self-image. Your self-image determines how others see and treat you.

The more you empower yourself, the more you act with confidence. The more you’re able to see the real potential of who you are, and change your self-image. As the circle continues, this more confident self-image now determines how others see and treat you.

Empowering yourself is also to some a scary proposition. If you truly want to be empowered you must first take responsibility for your life, period. You must accept without a doubt that you created or co-created every situation in your life. That doesn’t mean placing blame or feeling shame.

It simply means that you have to accept that the choices you’ve made up to this point have led to where you are in life right now. Most mental health professionals will say that this leads to a blame the victim mentality. However, if you are empowered and making decisions based purely on your core values, then you will not be a victim.

If something unpleasant or even horrible happens in your life, you’ll have the tools to deal with it. You will not see yourself as a victim of circumstance. You’ll see yourself as someone who currently has a situation that needs to be dealt with and you’ll find the best resources available to deal with it. No matter the situation.

Taking the Steps

1. Acknowledge and accept where you are right now. Once you do this, you can then say to yourself, “this is where I AM and that’s okay for now.” Knowing and accepting where you are will give you a clear understanding of what you need to do to move forward.

2. Figure out what you do want. You have to be specific. Just simply knowing what you don’t want isn’t good enough. Pose the question, the answer is there you just have to know how to listen for it. Meditation can help you. It will allow you to quiet your mind so you can hear the answer.

3. Deal with any resistance you feel to the answers you’ve been given. This may require you to change your beliefs. Remember if you believe you can’t then you can’t. You have to start to believe it’s possible. Learning to monitor your feelings will help you. When you think of your newly set direction in life, pay close attention to the feelings you get.

If you feel doubt, fear, anxiety, or any other negative emotion, then stop for a moment and determine what you were just thinking that caused those feelings. Take each thought one at a time. For instance, you find that fear or anxiety kicks in when you’re thinking of your new direction. And you determine you were thinking, I’m not smart enough to do this.”

Then ask yourself, “Why do I feel this way?” And start thinking and listing all the things that you’ve done in your life that say otherwise. Always turn the negative into a positive. If the fear or anxiety is deeply rooted, and you can’t use these techniques to move past it, you may need to seek the aid of a counselor to discover why you can’t let it go. But generally, just turning the negative thought on itself is enough to move past it.

4. The last step is to have faith and allow. Once you’ve dealt with the negativity concerning the change, have faith that you’re taking a positive step in the right direction. Allow it to happen. Relax and pay attention to how events unfold.

You’re on the path to becoming who you really are. Your past holds only memories of what was and your future holds the promise of what you create. This is empowerment. You now have the power to take control and make the choices that allow you to live the life you desire and deserve.

Happy Not Just 1 of the 7 Dwarfs

Each day when you wake, you have a choice. You can dwell on yesterday, you can worry about tomorrow, or you can let that all go and make the choice to be happy this very day. It’s completely up to you.

Mind: Become aware of every moment of every day. Don’t waste your time letting your mind fill up with self-limiting beliefs and personal trash-talk. Set your intention that you’ll be happy on this day and you’ll have a productive, positive, and purposeful day. Make sure you do your part so that intention is realized.

Body: Get up, get out, and enjoy the day. Look for the beauty in all you see around you. Mother Nature offers some spectacular views. So “stop and smell the roses.” Just breathe in the fresh air and enjoy every moment.

Spirit: You only receive each day once so spend each and every moment to the fullest. Live each day so that it leaves an impression on those around you and on your Soul. Be grateful that you were here to experience this priceless treasure.

“Because we have learned to believe negativity is more realistic, it appears more real than any positive voice.”

Get In Touch-Naturally

Most people cringe when they hear…”get in touch with your feelings.” They’ve been told some where along the line that being in touch with their feelings means that they’re weak. But it’s just the opposite. Getting in touch with your feelings is one of the most empowering things you can do.

If you feel tired, rung out, useless, angry, stressed, jealous, loathing, hatred, unworthy, disgusted, or depressed most of the time then the majority of your thoughts are of those very things. Your thoughts and feelings are interchangeable.

The thoughts come first. Something happens and your begin to think about the situation. The more you focus on it, the worse you begin to feel. But, you don’t connect feeling bad with what you’re thinking. The worse you feel the more you focus on the situation. That’s why it’s so important to become conscious of your feelings.

You can’t monitor every thought you have. But, you can monitor how you feel. Understanding how you physically feel is the key to what you’re thinking. Do you feel tense? Do you have headaches and body aches? Do you have high blood pressure? Do you feel that it’s hard to move and takes great effort just to get up in the mornings?

These are all physical signs or feelings that your thinking is negative. Mind and body (as well as spirit) go hand-in hand. When you’re constantly bombarding yourself with negativity, your body can only react one way and that’s negative.

Also, begin to pay close attention to the way you react to people and situations. If you find yourself feeling frustrated, impatient, or agitated just keep reminding yourself that, “you cannot control the actions of others–you can only control the way you react to them.”

Negative energy floats through the air like a virus, just waiting to latch on to someone whose defenses are down. And you’re most vulnerable when you’re out of alignment with your Higher Source. When you learn to quiet your mind and the relentless negative self-talk and listen to what Source is telling you, you begin to see that negativity isn’t the natural way of being.

Feeling of constant overwhelming stress and anger aren’t natural. Headaches, body aches, high blood pressure, and feeling that it’s hard to move and takes great effort just to get up in the mornings, isn’t natural.

Feelings of love, compassion, joy, peace, and harmony are the natural way of being. And, when this is your way of feeling the majority of the time those physical signs tend to disappear. You feel good, have plenty of energy, and are happy and love life. You know intuitively that this is the natural way of things.

Find it within yourself to access these feelings. You possess them naturally. They’re simply buried under the viral negativity. Dig deep, get in touch with those feelings and you’ll soon find that you’re empowered to live a natural way of life.

“To accomplish great things dream, plan, act, and most importantly believe.”-SL Taylor

How the Law of Attraction Really Works

You know when you have something that’s real because it’ll stand the test of time. Helena Blavatsky coined the phrase Law of Attraction in her first book, Isis Unveiled: Secrets in 1877. That was 135 years ago. But the theory dates back at least millennia or more to early Hinduism and the Law of Karma.

The Law of Karma is a universal or spiritual law which states, man has free will and can change the course of his life, if he so chooses through his actions. In other words, your actions determine the course of your life. I don’t think anyone could disagree with this theory.

If we can agree that your actions determine the course of your life, then how does the Law of Attraction really work? The Law of Attraction is a universal or spiritual law as well and it states that which is like unto itself is drawn. Or, more simply, like attracts like. What does this have to do with determining the course of your life?

Perhaps everything. If your actions determine the course of your life then surely your thoughts and feelings determine what actions you’ll take. This is where I have a very different understanding of the Law of Attraction. According to the Secret, the book that brought LOA to the mainstream, all you have to do is apply a little positive thinking and all your dreams will instantly manifest before your eyes.

If only that were true, we’d all be in Utopia. But since the world is as it is, we all know that LOA doesn’t quite function like the Secret would have us believe. But just because it doesn’t work one way, doesn’t mean that it doesn’t work at all. LOA is very real and works perfectly every time.

LOA works through a mind-soul connection. This connection is made through daily meditation. Your soul is your link to God or the Source of all that is. God exists everywhere continuously and simultaneously throughout the whole of creation. And God manifests in essence in all of us.

It’s through this connection that you’re able to access the Universal Collective Intelligence (UC-I). This is where through your thoughts your actions are determined. What you think literally attracts you to people and circumstances that determine how your life unfolds.

If you think negative thoughts then you’ll find that you’re part of the Negative Collective herd and you’ll make decisions and take actions that lead to negative behaviors. You’ll continue to attract more and more negative situations that keep you moving in the wrong direction. Until you change your thoughts and the behaviors that accompany those thoughts, you’ll continue to go against the grain. That’s why when you choose this path life is so hard.

Conversely, if you choose to be happy and think positive thoughts then you’ll find yourself making decisions and taking actions based on that way of thinking. You’ll continue to attract more and more positive situations that keep you moving in the right direction. Good things will be happening and you’ll find that your journey can be easy when you take the right path.

Either way you’re attracting the answers you need based on your way of thinking.  Depending on whether that thinking falls under the category of negative or positive you’ll attract the people and circumstances that will either help you easily resolve your issue or keep pushing further away from the answers you seek. This is the real Law of Attraction at work.

“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.”–Marcus Tullius Cicero 106 BC – 43 BC, Politician, Orator and Philosopher

I ran this article last Christmas, but had several requests to run it again this year-so here it is hope you enjoy it.

Wisdom from Dad

When I was a child just starting to develop my own since of the world and make my own friends, my dad said to me and as I type this, I can hear his voice, “be careful of the choices you make now, they will forever shape your life.”

And he continued, “When you get older, regardless of whether you see your life as good or bad you should be grateful for every bit of it. After all, it’s the choices you make that determine how your life unfolds. Your life is a miracle of your making. So be sure to make it what you want.”

Now I understand the universal laws. And looking back, I think ol’ pop was practicing the Law of Attraction long before most anyone else had a clue. He was one of the most inspiring men I’ve had the pleasure of knowing.

He didn’t have it easy growing up…in his youth, (long before I came along) he made a few bad choices and thankfully learned some very valuable lessons. And I think it was because of this, that he always grateful for all he had. And he taught me all about gratitude.

I remember the year I asked if there really was a Santa Claus. Well, I thought my father would keel over. Not because it dawned on him I was growing up, but because how could I ask such a ludicrous question. Of course, there is a Santa Clause.

And I went on to say, that my friend Lynn said, her mom told her that Santa really didn’t exist. That Mom’s, Dad’s and other people just buy you gifts. Santa is just made up for little kids.

He sat back for a moment and then said, “Well to be honest there is no little jolly elf that lives at the North Pole and runs around in a red suit, driving a sleigh, and coming down chimneys.

But, Santa as we know him never was a real person. You see, it’s the ideal of Santa that’s real. The ideal that someone cares enough about you and loves you enough to want to give from their heart to you.”

Be Grateful for Giving

He continued, “It’s the act of giving love, and being selfless that makes us all Santa. So as long as you remain especially grateful for all you give and all you receive, the ideal of Santa will live inside you forever.”

Although this conversation happened some 38 years ago, and dad has been gone almost 30 years, I still remember his words as though he said them yesterday.  Being grateful for the ability to give is more important than being grateful for what you get.

Our mission here is to live our loves happily and harmoniously so that we can be in a place of giving to others. If we’re not in a place of peace within ourselves then we have nothing to offer others. We only have the ability to be Santa when we can give selflessly. But first, we must be a bit selfish. We must make sure that our lives are in perfect harmony before we can give of ourselves.

Now is the right time to tap into all the “goodwill” energy others are projecting. Then relish in it, store it away for use all year long. If everyone would just live the ideal of Santa all year instead of just at Christmas, there really would be peace on earth and goodwill towards all.