By guest blogger
Gaylena Nia Collins
Living in Flow The Art of Allowing
Music, dancing and poetry are at their best when they flow in prefect rhythm, it gives them breath-taking equality. Life itself is just as beautiful and breath-taking as dancing, music or poetry, when you act from what “feels” right instead of what you “Feel” you MUST do.
It can be difficult to make a decision on something that for no explainable reason “feels” right. Especially if it has to do with life changing decisions such as moving, changing jobs, or simply acting on a hunch. Growing up, we are not taught to trust that everything will be fine when we act on a feeling or hunch.
Acting on your feelings doesn’t just apply to the big decisions or even to making decisions at all. It applies to EVERY area of your life. We are also not taught that when something falls though or goes wrong, we should trust that somehow everything will work out for the best in the long run.
Go With the Flow
All of my experience has taught me to go with the flow of life and trust in whatever comes your way. Trust it’s for your highest good. Trust in yourself enough that you will never worry about what comes because you will see yourself through. When something “feels right,” don’t question or second guess it. Just go with it. Sometimes things come your way that you don’t care for, don’t push against them.
Allow whatever “Is” to be there. Even if it is one of the worst things, you have to face. Still, allow it to be. The universe never gives us more then we can handle at one time. Though you may feel this is untrue and don’t want it or want to deal with what is given. Instead, ask what you have to learn from the experience. To allow for the sake of allowing is one of the most powerful things you can do.
Negative things and happenings are only negative in your perspective. Nothing is ever either good or bad. It is your perception that makes you see it that way. And, when you stop seeing it that way, it will stop being that way for you.
As I look back at those times that I thought and felt were so hard to endure, I know now that I am very grateful for those hard times. All of my best lessons in life were learned in times of hardship and later became my greatest gifts. If you look really hard, you will probably find it is the same for you.
Hardships teach us about ourselves, about life and prepare us for what lies ahead. These are the lessons we need to know to be prepared. When the need arises, you will have the knowledge to deal with whatever life brings your way.
Pushing Against the Flow
When you are pushing against something you don’t want, that thing will persist. Moreover, when you are pushing you are not in flow. Pushing is like a dam blocking the natural flow of water from going where it needs. That is not allowing. It’s going against the current or otherwise going upstream. It’s not effective or effortless.
It does not mean you have to like “What Is.” But, if you accept, you cannot help or change it and simply allow it to be, it will run its course much quicker. Because trying to push away what you don’t want or like will only make it stay longer than necessary.
It takes constant practice to trust in the universe and in your own strength. You have to have faith in the process. Have faith that everything is happening for your highest good and allow it to be what it is, go with it, and go with the flow.
The universe is always working in your favor. Whether you see it or not does not mean it isn’t working. It loves you and loves giving you what you want. Sometimes that means you have to face hard truths about Self and life, so you can better reach your destination.
Sometimes along the way to the bigger picture, we need to face ourselves and release things from the past and embrace what is NOW. Other times we need to learn a new way of seeing, being, thinking, feeling, and taking action. But it cannot be learned if you are resisting the lessons, you need to learn from.
When you reach those times, take time to get quiet and ask yourself, what you might be resisting right now. REALLY allow yourself to answer. Ask yourself how you can better allow and most of all ask what these things have to teach you.
Nothing is given us that we can’t handle. And what is, is given for a very good reason. It may be to learn your best lesson. Allow it to be and look for what it might have to teach you that you might not have been willing to learn. Release any judgment and resistance.
A Place of Pure Love
Get quiet, clear your mind, find your center, and look within. Then look out to the world from that perspective. For you can only affect what is without from what is within. Choose not to see things the way you did before. Choose instead, to see them from a place of love. Allow this love to be love in its purest form.
Keep in mind that when you are resisting it engages your mental and emotional energies. Resistance steals away your energy and focus. The same energy and focus you could be using in all other areas of your life and sending out to others.
Resistance steals away your creativity and in the same instance, it blocks the natural flow of energy from moving. As you can imagine you have a lot of creative energy that you can direct any place you choose. But while in resistance, you have no energy to use.
Resistance is the one thing that effectively stops your energy. It keeps your focus stuck on the thing you are resisting. In this case, the only thing you experience is what you are resisting. It becomes your only reality. Effectively stopping your natural flow and keeping it in one place. Once you accept what you are resisting, your blocked energy is released to flow naturally again.
7 Things to Help You Move Forward
Here are 7 things you can do to improve your experience.
Practice getting quiet daily, going to the silence within, and asking your heart what it wants.
In silence, ask your heart or the universe what you need to be open to, and/or what you might be resisting.
Be more aware of what pulls at your heart. Follow through on it.
Acknowledge and accept what is and simply allow it to be.
Most of all give yourself time and love. Acknowledge that it takes time to learn a new way of doing things. Be non-judging with yourself and in your actions when you forget to accept things you would rather not experience, things such as hardships or lessons that come your way.
Even if you are resisting, commit to yourself that you will be aware of how doing that and anything else, makes you feel.
Gaylena is a Soul Coach and freelance writer who specializes in personal development and the Law of Attraction. Read Gaylena’s posts at Ascendiwill.wordpress.com
