Now that’s a bit Negative-Part 2
In Now that’s a bit Negative-Part 1, I discussed that getting quiet and realigning yourself with your Higher Source was the best way to begin changing your negative mindset and end the self imposed trash-talk and self-limiting beliefs. Once you’ve mastered this you can start taking the next steps.
Next Steps
The next steps will aid in helping you release your negativity and change your mind-set from one of self-limiting to believing in yourself. This is done through a technique that allows you to remain aligned with your Higher Source. And through that alignment, you’re able to free yourself of the thoughts and feelings that are holding you back from realizing your unlimited potential.
This process is going to take some time and commitment. It’s not going to happen in one 15-20 minute session. So, don’t simply do this once and assume it worked. If you’re genuinely serious about changing your mind-set and freeing yourself of the negativity and self-limiting beliefs then set aside 15-20 minutes each day to go through the following steps.
This process may get a bit uncomfortable, but remember you are not alone in doing any of these steps. Your Higher Source is guiding you through each step. If you really don’t think you’re ready to proceed then don’t. Only try this if you feel it’s something you’re comfortable doing. But if you have an open mind and a willing desire this could work wonders in your life.
Please keep in mind with this process you’re not dwelling in the past. It is because of past events, circumstances and situations that you have this negative mind-set and the self-limiting beliefs but you’re dealing with these as they affect you in this moment. You can’t go back. You can only change what will happen from this very moment forward. So start now.
For the example below, we’ll be using success as a focus. But of course, you can do this with any issue(s) you’re having. This is also a great process to do daily to keep yourself free of negativity and not allow the self-limiting beliefs to creep back in.
Step 1
Begin by quieting your mind (see Now that’s a bit Negative-Part 1).
Then say to yourself, I am aligned with my Higher Source. I am an open channel to receive all that is, that is Source. It is so, and so it is and for this, I am truly grateful. Repeat this 3 times.
Next, say to yourself, I choose to focus on what’s holding me back from achieving my desires. (Whatever your issue is put your focus on it.)
Step 2
Most of the things that we tend to hold on to or put our focus on comes from a place of needing, a place where we feel that we are lacking something. There are 3 most basic needs: power, validation, and protection.
Needing power means: you feel a deep desire to take over and be in command of the situation at all costs, no matter the consequences. You feel as though you must be in charge. When this need isn’t fulfilled, the feeling is that you are powerless, that you’re even a victim. Everyone else possesses all the power and you have none.
Needing validation means: that you need not only your actions but also your words to be validated by others. When you need validation you expect positive feedback, love and acceptance for all that you do. If you don’t get it as expected then you start looking for any kind of validation even if it’s negative. To some people any attention even if it’s negative attention is better than no attention at all.
Needing protection means: that you need to keep yourself from being hurt at all costs either physically or psychologically. So you tend to close yourself off from things that not only may potentially bring you pain but also things that bring you pleasure because you fear they will lead to pain. The conflicting side of this is you may feel the need to punish yourself or cause yourself harm because you feel you aren’t worthy of having the things you desire.
Ask yourself the “does this” question. For example, does this inability to achieve the success I desire come from a place of needing power, validation, or protection?
Pause between each of these questions to see if you get any kind of response. The response may be subtle or it may be very obvious. You may just notice a twinge or you may burst out in tears or somewhere in between. If you get any response at all then say, “With Source’s guidance I allow myself to focus on needing whatever you need (power, validation, or protection).
Next, ask yourself can I acknowledge fully that I have this need? Answer yes or no. Either you can acknowledge it by saying yes or you can say no. If you answer Yes to the above question, move on to step 3.
If you answer No then you’re not yet ready to free yourself of this need. It’s still serving some sort of purpose. You may need to spend more time quieting your mind and saying to yourself–I know with Source’s help I am able to openly acknowledge this need. Take your time with this. It’s very important that you’re able to acknowledge this need before you move on. So spend as much time as it takes to feel comfortable answering yes to the question then move on to step 3.
Even if you answered yes, before you can move forward, you must be able to acknowledge that you possess this need. You must be able to take responsibility and accept that need as truth.
By taking responsibility, it doesn’t mean laying blame. It simply means that you can look at the situation and believe with Sources help, this is the situation/issue before me at this very moment, it’s unimportant how it got this way. I choose to accept it as it is in this moment and move forward.
Step 3
Next, say to yourself what is the purpose of this need (power, validation, or protection?) How does this serve me? This may sound like a strange question. But holding on fulfills some need or you wouldn’t do it. You tend to hold on to things that have a purpose or fill a need and naturally let go of the things that don’t. Once you figure out what need you’re trying to fulfill, then it’s time to work on freeing yourself of it.
Example: You’re focusing on your inability to achieve the success you desire. And when you asked your “does this” question, you realized that this issue comes from a place of needing protection.
Then you ask, what is the purpose of this need? And the answer you receive from your Higher Mind is-to protect you from the unknown. Then you ask how does this serve me? And the answer is-to keep you right where you are so you won’t venture into the unknown. So somewhere along your past journey, something happened to make you afraid to try new things, to take risks and to feel either elation or rejection.
Now say to yourself, can I pull this need for protection and its purpose (whatever need and purpose you discovered in step 2) up out of the shadows and bathe it in the white light of Source? Yes or No? Both answers are appropriate, as with the last step if you say, “No,” you should refer back to step 2 until you feel comfortable answering “yes,” to this question.
Step 4
Now as you’re doing this the feelings you get may start out subtle. But, as you continue to pull up old self-limiting beliefs and negativity the feelings may get very strong so be prepared.
Now, you’re at the point where you’re ready to free yourself of this need. Say to yourself, I allow myself to bring my need for protection and its purpose into the Light of Source and feel it fully completely. Focus for a moment and do your best to visualize your need bathed in brilliant white light.
Then pause for a moment and see what kind of feeling you get. Then continue to say, can I allow Source to free me of this need and it’s purpose as fully completely as I felt it?
At this point, you should feel some sort of release. Repeat these steps with one single issue until you feel fully free of it. Feeling free means when you again think about the issue you feel peaceful and calm. It also means that the issue is no longer an issue. All of the negative and self-limiting beliefs regarding your particular issue have been removed. You can now approach this issue with clarity and knowing just what you do want.
Work on one single issue at a time until you feel fully free of each issue. And soon the past will be just that…past and you’ll be moving forward faster than you ever imagined.
In the next post I’ll discuss how this process will work on other people as well as issues. And how it can help you stay positive even in negative times.
