What we focus on, we empower and enlarge. Good multiplies when focused upon. Negativity multiplies when focused upon. The choice is ours: Which do we want more of?—Julia Cameron
Now that’s a bit Negative-Part 3
In the last two posts I’ve explained how to quiet your mind and stop the negative trash-talk and self-limiting beliefs. And, I laid out the steps you can take to free yourself of the “needs” that lead to a negative mind-set.
Once you’ve practiced these techniques and gotten comfortable with them, it’s time to put them to use to help deal the negativity that comes from others. It’s important to learn how to deal with negative people so that you don’t keep attracting their negativity into your life.
To deal with negative people and negative situations that you no longer want as part of your life, start by placing the intention, “I intend to ban all negativity from my life.” Now be very careful and very sure when you state this type of an intention. I had a neighbor who I’d actually been friends with for quite some time.
But as I started to search for my authentic self, her negativity became more than I could stand. So I stated the intention one day that I would ban all negativity from my life. Within a few days, my neighbor stopped talking to me. I asked several people if I’d done anything different, they all agreed that the only difference was that I was much more positive than I used to be.
Within a month, she’d moved out and didn’t say a word about where she was moving. And I haven’t heard from her sense. Now this just may be coincidence or it could that if you can remain positive even in negative situations that the positivity will always triumph over the negativity.
Now please be careful if you do choose to use such an intention. Make sure only to use this type intention if you are absolutely positive this is exactly what you want.
Another way to deal with negative people and situations is to use the same techniques above with just a bit of modification.
Step 1
Start by doing your best to limit your exposure to the person and/or situation. If you can’t then before you have to deal with it, say to yourself, “I am aligned with my Higher Source and I know that Source will guide me in this situation. I choose through Source to remain positive. Once you’ve done this then move on to the next step.
Step 2
One of the things to realize is that when you’re in any uncomfortable situation, no matter what it is, that you’re going to feel some apprehension. So try to take a moment and free yourself of this feeling. Freeing yourself will help you to be more relaxed and at peace. This will make you less vulnerable to picking up on the negativity.
Step 3
Starting by asking yourself, “What purpose does feeling apprehensive have, does it come from needing power, validation or to safeguard myself?” Once you’ve decided which need or needs you’re trying to fulfill, then focus for a moment and say to yourself, “I allow myself to bring my need for (whichever need or needs you have), into the Light of Source.” Focus for a moment and do your best to see your need bathed in brilliant white light.
Then pause for a moment and see what kind of feeling you get. Then continue to say, “I accept that I have a need for (whichever need or needs you have) and now through Source I am ready to free myself of this need. It is so and so it is and for this I am grateful.”
Again at this point, you should feel some sort of release. If you have time repeat these steps with this issue until you feel completely free of it. Keep in mind that once you do these steps consistently you’ll be able to do all this in a matter of just a few minutes. So you can do it anywhere.
Feeling free of any “need” means that when you again think about the issue, you will only feel peaceful and calm. Now, go on to deal with the negative issue, knowing that Source will be there to guide you through.
