The deep seeded need to be right stunts your growth as an intellectual being. Without an open mind and willingness to see the views of others you cannot learn or develop new ideas never growing beyond what you are at this very moment.-SL Taylor
The Need to be Right
The need to be right all the time could be considered a violent act. If you have this overwhelming need, you feel that your very survival as an individual depends on being right. You attack the views of others using your words as weapons. And you’re willing to fight to the death, the death of relationships with friends, family, and co-workers.
Your mind is closed to any ideas other than your own. And you have an uncontrollable need to hear at all costs that you’re right. You lack the capacity to be compassionate and to give of yourself. And because of this, you’re unable to allow yourself to move forward and live the life you desire.
The need to be right is nothing more than an idea that has manifested over time into a self-limiting belief. The belief that your worth as an individual depends on being right. This belief has been cultivated for so long that it’s limited your growth as an intellectual being. Rather than making you stronger, this belief has literally closed you off from others and made you weaker.
This need to be right at all costs attitude also keeps you from becoming the person you were meant to be. Because you’ve closed yourself off so much you’re unable to find your Source. Without access to your Source, you cannot move forward and you just keep limiting yourself. And your worth as an individual is really at stake.
The Muddy Hole
When you have this overwhelming need to be right you are unable to learn, to be creative, to have any potential at all. You’re simply stuck in a muddy hole, with no possible way out.
Let’s think about this: your driving along when out of nowhere comes a torrential rain. The road floods quickly and you’re just convinced that if you keep going you’ll drive out of it. When the next thing you know, you’re stuck in a muddy hole.
Again, you know that if you just keeping spinning your wheels that you’ll be able to pull yourself out of the mud and keep going. Even though all signs say, you’re just burying yourself deeper. But because you’re convinced, you’re right you keep at it until the car is buried so deep you can’t even open the doors to get out.
Now that sounds somewhat ridiculous doesn’t it? But every time you insist on being right without considering any other points of view, you’re just burying yourself deeper. The deeper you go the darker it gets until you can’t find any light to show you the way out.
Allowing Yourself to Grow
When you bury yourself in the need to be right, you essentially turn yourself off. You shutdown, stop growing and burn out. Just like a computer, that doesn’t receive regular upgrades to its software. You just keep running the same old programming and eventually become obsolete.
Allowing others to have their own ideas and opinions doesn’t have to threaten yours. How many ideas have you changed over the years? The more you upgrade your software, the longer you’ll run. And the more expanded you’ll become.
There really is nothing wrong with being wrong. In your quest to be right, you’re generally wrong more often than not, because you refuse to learn from your mistakes. The only real way to be right is to listen to others and allow.
Allow them to have their own feelings and beliefs and listen to what they have to say. Just by listening, you’ll begin to think. Thinking is what expands us as individuals. And once you finally begin to expand your own thought process, you’ll get more in touch with your Source.
And then you’ll understand that wisdom is one of the most right things around. When you have wisdom, you no longer have a need to justify anything. The need to be right fades away and the need to grow and expand your knowledge replaces it. The more you expand yourself the more compassionate you become and the more you can allow yourself to be the person you were meant to be and begin living the life you desire.
