Allow Your Life

“We are at times too ready to believe that the present is the only possible state of things.”-Marcel Proust

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The first time you watched or read the Secret did you think that this makes total sense? And say to yourself, I just knew it. This really is the way things are supposed to be. Life is supposed to be easy and joyful.

And based on what you saw or read you jumped right in and tried to manifest the very life you desire from the get go. And so you started trying to think positive and be positive about everything. You just knew that all your desires were being met and they were all on their way to you. Good news is you were right.

But after a few weeks or maybe months, you were still stuck in the same old life you had before. Nothing much had changed. And so you concluded that the law of attraction only works for those people who were in the Secret. And it doesn’t work for the average person.

Not Your Fault

You gave up, slipped back into your old habits of negativity, and became your own self-fulfilling prophecy. But really, it’s not your fault. You weren’t given the whole story. The Secret only told you a small portion of how the law of attraction affects our lives. It left out some of the most important parts.

The law of attraction is one small piece of the puzzle. Thinking positively is a great start. Positive thinking goes a long way to helping you realize that life is joyful. But it isn’t all you need to do to realize your desires.

Of course, because of the Secret, you understand the basis for the law of attraction. That like attracts like and your thoughts and feelings determine what you’re attracting based on your vibrational patterns.

What the Secret Didn’t Tell You

Another important law that the Secret didn’t mention is the Law of Intentional Consciousness. This law states that you must remain conscious and aware of your thoughts and feelings at all times.

It’s your feelings that determine whether your thinking is positive or negative. Good feelings mean you’re thinking positively, bad feelings mean you’re thinking negatively. This is a very simplistic definition of this law but it gives you enough to get a basic understanding.

But it’s this last law that you must completely understand and consistently practice before you’ll start manifesting anything at all. This is probably the most important universal law of all and it was brushed over and barely mentioned.

It’s The Law of Allowing. Without this law, the Law of Attraction and the Law of Intentional Consciousness can’t do their job. You can ask, you can stay conscious and aware but unless you allow…nothing.

The Gatekeeper

Think of the Law of Allowing as your gatekeeper. All that you desire has come to you but it’s waiting right outside the gate to be let in. You can see it. You can almost reach out and touch it. But that’s as close as you can get.

Until you remove the guard and open the gate all your desires will stop right there. This is the missing component of making the Secret work for you. You must let down your guard and surrender. You must be willing to allow goods things to come into your life.

This is where the law of intentional consciousness is applied. You must remain intentionally conscious of your thoughts and feelings so that you can be open to allow. Once you become unconscious, you go back to the habit of thinking negatively. And, you put the gatekeeper back to work keeping things out.

So the real Secret to manifesting your desires is to learn the habit of positive thinking. Become conscious of your thoughts and feelings so you don’t return to the old habit of negativity. Once you’re consistently thinking and feeling positive, you’ve changed your vibrational energies. Now it’s time to open your heart and mind and allow all good things to come to you.

“If you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue. Make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved, and the need to judge. Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time. It’s very important to be aware of them every time they come up.”– Deepak Chopra

Letting Go of Ego

As you move forward in discovering your true potential you will invariably enter in to a battle of wills between the ego and your higher more enlightened self. It happens to every one of us as we begin to discover our true or spiritual selves.

A few years ago, while recovering from an accident I was having a hard time with depression. During a rather intense discussion with my significant other, I was out of control, very upset, and crying. I remember screaming that I know that there’s this other presence inside of me just trying to get out.

I’m surprised that during my tirade my partner didn’t rush me off to the nearest loony bin right then and there. Because I’m sure, I was sounding a bit well, strange to say the least talking about another presence inside me.

I continued to say, I know that I’m supposed to feel different. I know that I’m supposed to be more than I am. I know that things are not supposed to be this way. I know that there’s more to us than we show.

But at that time, I really didn’t understand just what was going on. I figured it was the medication or just the affects of the depression. I wasn’t in a place yet where I was ready even to try to understand the conflict I was feeling. But I also didn’t let it go. I kept trying to figure out just what was going on inside because I knew that somehow it would lift me out of the depression. And, that’s all I wanted.

As I worked on discovering what I was feeling, I began reading many different books. And the more I read the more clear it became. I was locked in a battle with ego and my true self or spiritual self. My true self wanted to escape the depression while ego wanted to stay in charge and keep things status quo.

One moment my true self or spiritual self would be in charge and I’d feel some inkling of hope. The next ego would be back in charge running the show and all I felt was deep despair. This battle raged on for quite some time until I finally understood completely what was going on.

Once I figured it out, I began to pay attention to the way I felt. I’d acknowledge my true self every time it would show up. I’d do the best I could to listen to what my spiritual self was telling me. It wasn’t long then until the cloud of depression lifted just enough for me to start making real progress and feeling good again.

Spiral Out of Control

This type conflict doesn’t always begin during a state of depression, but it does usually begin during darker times in our lives. It’s during these times that we lose what little connection we have to our spiritual selves. This allows ego to get a firm hold on our thoughts and feelings and it tries to dominate us completely.

Unless we recognize this, ego moves in to take over. This is where things start to spiral out of control and we feel helpless. We feel as though we have no control over anything in our lives. It is from this place that most of us operate on a daily basis. From a place of confusion and fear where ego struggles to gain control against that it cannot control. It’s a wonder that any of us manage to function as rationally as we do.

This internal battle is as old as life itself. So, learning to let go of ego will take time and much diligence. You have to find it within yourself to be persistent. And be ready for all the sly tricks ego will throw your way. Ego will not go quietly. The internal debate will cause much conflict and be quite noisy.

As you challenge your limited beliefs, ego will give you every valid reason it can come up with to hold on. Just know that your true self is much stronger than this. And, as your true self emerges and your spiritual awareness grows stronger, ego will soon lose its grasp. But also be aware that it’s during this time that ego will seek to compromise. Don’t let this happen or ego will back in charge before you know it.

In order to let go of ego you must learn to listen. For most of us, our minds are never quiet. There’s always some form of self-talk going on inside us. We’re either thinking about the past and all the bad stuff that happened then or we’re planning for the future and all the good stuff we want to happen.

Just Listen

Our mind runs a mile a minute plotting, planning, and scheming how to change the way things are. Or, our mind is engaged in some form or another of negative self-talk about ourselves or someone else. We never just get quiet and listen. I know I’d been told by my parents a few times in my youth, “You can’t listen if your mouth is moving.”

It’s the same with our minds, we can’t hear the message if we continue to self-talk over it. We have to learn to get quiet and really listen. The messages that we are listening for are coming from a much deeper place than ego. Therefore, in the beginning you must challenge every thought you have. And you challenge these thoughts by figuring out just how they make you feel and then letting go of them.

Feelings of anger, fear, anxiety, hatred, loathing, stress, apathy, or any feeling that makes you feel anything other than good and at peace is ego rearing its ugly head. Beware of such thoughts and learn to let them go quickly. Don’t hold on to such thoughts because they give ego a chance to regain control.

With ego out of the picture, you will feel at ease, peaceful and happy. When problems do arise, they will be short lived and easily resolved. Remember to take your time, give yourself plenty of room to learn new behaviors, and let go of the old ones. Your old behaviors have developed over a lifetime, but with persistence and ego out of the picture, your life will be at peace before you know it.

For more information on letting go of limiting thoughts, be sure to check out the Sedona Method:

The greatest gift you can give to others is to show them their worth, not in terms of money but in terms of acceptance—SL Taylor

Take the Anger Quiz

When it comes to manifesting your desires the law of allowing seems to hold most people away from realizing their dreams. It’s not until you’re willing literally to change your belief system to  let go of your anger and resistance, that you can master the law of allowing. And begin realizing just what the universe has in store for you.

There are two parts to the law of allowing. The first part says that you must be open and willing to allow good things to come into your life. The second part says that you must be able to allow others to have, do, or be anything they choose…period. No, matter what they choose.

The problem is that the vast majority of people simply cannot allow others. It’s evident all around us. The shootings at Fort Hood, the war on drugs, the opposition to gay marriage, anti abortion rallies, domestic violence, murder, robbery, rape, incest, torture, you name any horror imaginable and it all comes from not allowing others.

Anger and fear play a huge role in not being able to allow. Most people fear things they don’t understand therefore they become angry and resist them.  By resisting, they refuse to let go and allow others. But for any of you who may be Star Trek Next Generation fans as the Borg said, “Resistance is futile.” The more you resist the choices that others make the more you resist yourself.

You Cannot Change the World

The truth that most people miss is that you cannot change the world as a whole. Nor should you even try. But you can change the tiny molecule of the world that you occupy by letting go of your fear and anger therefore changing yourself.

Once you begin to realize that you are your world and only you are responsible (yes there’s that horrible word) for your very life, that should change just how you perceive things. You can stop resisting the choices that others make. And in the process begin allowing yourself and everyone else to have, do, or be anything they choose.

When you believe without a doubt that their choices simply will not impact your world in any way you’ll see just how easy it is to allow others to take responsibility for their own choices as well.

There is a huge relief in not taking on responsibility that isn’t yours. Can you imagine just how easy life would be for most people if they didn’t take on unnecessary added responsibility?

Imagine only focusing your attention on the things that directly affect your life and make you happy, instead of all the things you can find that are wrong. Allow others to focus on those things if they choose.

Now this doesn’t mean turning a blind eye to helping those in need. If you are coming from a place of pure allowing, then helping others will make you happy. Therefore, you’re only focusing your attention directly on the things that make you happy.

5 Simple Questions

Every time you find yourself feeling anger even to the point of hatred about the choices someone else is making, before you speak, before you act, before you do anything, focus your attention on your feelings about the issue, and take the anger quiz by asking yourself these 5 simple questions.

1. Can I simply accept that they choose something different than I do? (Yes or No is an appropriate answer)
2. Can I accept that their choice(s) will not have any affect on my life as a whole or the choices I choose to make? (Yes or No is appropriate)
3. Can I allow them their choices? (Yes or No is appropriate)
4. Can I let go of the anger and emotional attachment I have to their choices? (Again Yes or No is appropriate)

If you find yourself answering “no” to most of the questions above then ask yourself:

5. Would I rather be angry and take on additional responsibly that isn’t mine by continuing my emotion attachment to this issue or would I rather be free? If you can answer “free” then you’ve taken the first step to letting go of the anger and fear that causes us to resist others and even ourselves.

As you focus within, you become more conscious about your feelings and the choices you make based on those feelings. The more conscious you are the more selective you become about what you choose. As you become more selective about the things you focus your attention on the easier it will become to answer “yes” to the above questions.

The more you begin to answer “yes” instead of “no” the more you’ll find yourself letting go of the anger, fear and resistance you feel to the choices that others make. And as you continually let go you’ll soon find that rather than anger, fear and resistance you’ll feel freedom.

Freedom from the unnecessary added responsibility of holding on. Freedom to live your life as you choose and allow others to do the same. And then you’ll be on your way to allowing your life all you desire.

“I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge – myth is more potent than history – dreams are more powerful than facts – hope always triumphs over experience – laughter is the cure for grief – love is stronger than death”– Robert Fulghum

Letting Go Of Grief

Grief comes in all shapes and sizes. It sneaks in at the most unexpected times. As with any feeling or emotion the more you pile on the more bogged down you feel until you begin to feel like you can’t move at all, like you’re spinning the wheel. You just keep going around in circles and nothing ever changes.

There are as many reasons to grieve as we can imagine. The loss of anything can cause us grief. Of course, we feel grief at the loss of a loved one, but we also feel grief at the loss of job, loss of good health, a friend, a relationship, a beloved pet, a child getting married or going off to college.

We tend to hold on to grief at all costs. We feel that grieving some how justifies the situation that caused us to grieve in the first place. This “justification” keeps us from moving forward. And we remain stuck in grief, sometimes for years without ever realizing it.

My dad died when I had just turned seventeen that was almost thirty years ago. I was most definitely a daddy’s girl. I knew that at the time I was devastated. What I didn’t realize is that all these years later I was still grieving. I thought that as soon as I felt better and moved on with life that my grieving was over.

Boy was I wrong. A few years ago, when I discovered I was still grieving many things weren’t going well at all in my life. I’d just had a bad accident and couldn’t return to work. Because of this, my company refused to hold my position and I lost my job. This led to a huge financial strain on the family with the loss of income and additional medical bills. And things just snowballed down hill from there.

I found myself getting more and more depressed. At this point, I’d really lost touch with all the things I believe in. I was positive that Source had abandoned me, leading to more feelings of grief.

Holding On to Grief

Then one day I was trying desperately to feel something other than numb. I had reached a point where I just wanted to feel anything. So I sat down, did the best I could to quiet my mind, when out of nowhere I began to cry, uncontrollably. I cried for almost an hour. Once I got a hold of myself, it dawned on me what I’d been thinking about when the water works started.

I’d been thinking that it was time to embrace my passion and find a way to make money writing full time. So when I quieted my mind, the first memory I had was of talking to my dad. We were discussing my going to college when I was about sixteen. I was telling him that I wanted to major in English and Journalism when I heard him clearly say to me exactly what he said then, “You need to consider a real career, because writers don’t make any money.”

Then the next thought I had was…what do you care? You didn’t care enough to hang around to see me graduate high school or go to college. Just keep your (blankin’) opinions to yourself. Boy, did I feel angry or what? I had no idea that I was that angry with my dad for dying, that all those years later I still felt abandoned. I was still grieving, but not for the loss of my dad.

I was grieving for the loss of what could have been. He could have been there to see me graduate. He could have been there to see me grow up. Once we come to terms with the physical loss of someone or something, which happens relatively quickly in the grieving process. We begin to feel the loss of what could have been. It’s this grief we bury and carry with us. This is what keeps us stuck.

What Could Have Been

We don’t move forward because we don’t know where to go. We’re trying to move forward based on what could have been instead of what is. In order to let go (of anything) the first thing you need to do is accept it. By accepting it, you don’t have to like it. You simply have to acknowledge that it exists and that this is what you feel.

Always remember that your feelings are your feelings. No matter why you have them, how you got them, or what you do with them. No matter what anyone says, you are allowed to feel the way you feel. But you also must remember when it comes to feelings, they are not who you are, they mask who you are. And only you can take control and change the way you feel.

Once you’ve accepted that you’re still grieving, go ahead, and welcome the grief. It’s been hanging around awhile, so welcome it. Acknowledge it. Let it know you know it’s there. Then let it go.

In my case, I also thought I needed to forgive. I was still angry about losing what could have been with my dad. I sat quietly by myself and said, “Dad, I forgive you for leaving me at a time when I really needed you in my life. At a time that was special. I also forgive you for giving up and not fighting to stay with us. In turn I forgive myself for being angry with you all these years.”

I then focused on what I was feeling, welcomed it one more time, and then simply asked myself if I’d rather still feel these feelings. Or, would I rather feel free? I decided that I’d rather be free. So I said, “Grief I know you’ve been here for a while a long while and I accept that you’re here. But I do believe with all my heart that it’s time for to go so that I can move on.”

“So can I allow grief to remain here?” Although this seems like an odd question, it’s very relative. If you really can accept the feeling then you can allow it to remain with you. Although “no” is an appropriate answer too, if you’re really at a point of allowing then you’ll easily be able to answer “yes.”

Letting Go

Once I answered yes to this question, then I asked myself, “Can I let grief go?” This is also a very relative question because we obviously tend to hold on to our feelings. I’d been holding on to this one for many, many years.

Once I answered “yes” to this question I then asked myself. “when can I let grief go?” Once again, since we hold on, this is a relative question. It’s also an invitation simply to say, “Now!” And by doing so letting the feelings of grief go. When I said now, I found such a sense of relief. Almost like the proverbial weight had been lifted. I had to do this exercise a few time before I felt the freedom I was looking for. But in a very short amount of time, I saw many things turn around.

For one I believed that Source hadn’t abandoned me after all. That I’d just shrouded my connection in grief. I also started healing from my accident and I pursued my passion to write full time. It’s as though my energy level rose to a point so quickly that all things I desired starting showing up at once.

The method I used to let go, is called the Sedona Method. It’s in my humble opinion the best program for helping you to let go of all your limiting beliefs. It’s quick, it’s easy to understand, it’s comprehensive, and above all if you give it the old college try, it will work. Unlike other programs for dealing with your limited feelings and beliefs, you don’t even have to believe this works. No belief is needed for it to do its job.

All you have to do is focus and ask the appropriate questions. There’s no delving in to why you have these feelings, where they came from or any of that. That really is all unimportant. All that is important is the way you feel and that you can let it go and move on. If you’re ready to move on then give the Sedona Method a try.

Before your dreams can manifest you must expect them to.—SL Taylor

Expectation Board

Creating the life we want and deserve isn’t always as easy as it should be. That’s because sometimes it’s hard to envision exactly what we want. And then, we don’t always quite believe that it will happen even if we do know exactly what it is that we want.

That’s where an Expectation Board can make all the difference in the world to manifesting our desires. Once we’ve decided on our goals it’s time to make an expectation board. An expectation board is different from a vision board. This is where you put the things that you expect to happen without a doubt.

Expectation is the hardest part of manifesting our desires. We must expect, then allow into our life, that which we intend. No matter what the expectation is, go to the computer and search for pictures that match it.

Print out the pictures and tape them to any old piece of poster board. Hang it where you or even the whole family will be able to see it every day. This will keep your expectations fresh in your mind so that you and everyone involved will stay focused on them.

Make it a point to have regular conversations about the things on your expectation board. Be excited about them. Remember it’s your feelings that put you in a place to realize your desires. The more everyone communicates and stays focused the more likely you are to be living the life you all desire in a very short amount of time.

To get motivated and give you and idea of what an Expectation Board should look like be sure to check out my Youtube video. I hope this helps you begin to live the life you truly desire and especially deserve. May your every expectation become a realization.

Pity the man who inherits a million and isn’t a millionaire. Here’s what would be pitiful, if your income grew and you didn’t. –Jim Rohn

Attract Abundance Using “Success Words”

How you choose to attract abundance may just determine how much abundance you’re able to attract. The truth is that no matter whether you’re extremely wealthy or dirt poor your thoughts are mostly about money and attracting more of it.

The real difference between the abundantly wealthy and those who continue to scrape by is that those who scrape by really don’t understand just how to attract wealth. In order to create wealth you have to take action. If you actively seek to create abundance, you will. If you passively seek to create abundance, you won’t.

Actively seeking abundance means that you first must feel successful. Your mindset must be in “I Am” mode. You have to think like the wealthy do. You have to have the confidence not only to look for opportunities but also to jump on them as they come your way. Once an opportunity passes you by, you may never have that opportunity again.

If you continue passively seeking abundance, wishing to win the lottery or wishing for a huge inheritance you’ll simply continue to scrape by. Passively seeking wealth simply means that you are allowing all your opportunities to pass you by. You have to change your thinking to “I create more wealth,” instead of “how am I going to get more money.”

Changing Your Mindset

Wealthy, successful, failure or poor are all just mindsets. What you think you are you become. You can’t allow whatever choices you’ve made to this point dictate how you move forward. What you can do in this very moment right now is make the choice to move forward. Not remain stuck in your current mindset.

Moving forward will take commitment. It will take some effort. It will take consistency. It will take the ability to try new things. It will take the desire to change. But above all, it will take an open mind. If you can find these qualities hidden somewhere deep in yourself then you’re ready to “talk” yourself into actively beginning to creating the wealth you desire.

In Napoleon Hill’s book Think and Grow Rich he says, “All achievement, all earned riches, have their beginning in an idea.” To create this idea you must first decide exactly how much wealth you want to attract and by what date you wish to attract it. Make the exact amount and time frame a challenge but not something so outrageous you’ll get frustrated and quit before you’ve made your first dollar.

At this point, it doesn’t matter just yet, what you’re going to do to earn this amount. Now take a 3×5 card and write on the card, the exact amount and the date which you expect to have it. Also, write on the card, “I AM a success. I actively seek opportunities from which I can create wealth. I intend to earn exact amount by this date.

Success Words

Carry this card with you, memorize it, and repeat your affirmation with feeling several times a day. Repeat it loudly enough that you can hear it. Make it the first thing you say upon waking and the last thing you say before going to sleep. These “success words” will soon burn their way in to your subconscious mind.

Using affirmations will help you to start thinking from a position of abundance and stop thinking from a position of lack. When it comes to creating wealth, we generally devote most of our thoughts to what we don’t have or can’t afford. This type of thinking just keeps us stuck in what we don’t have or can’t afford.

And once the ball starts rolling we find ourselves so buried in negative energy that we can’t dig a way out. Affirmations help to clear a path. They break up some of the negative energy and allow some positive energy to flow.

By focusing more and more on the positive energy, things will start to change. You will begin a vibrational shift that will allow you to create positive situations. Your subconscious mind will now be more focused on the new positive beliefs and discard the old negative ones.

You can’t simply expect anything to change if you say an affirmation for a few minutes a day and then continue your negative thinking. Remember changing old habits can take lifetime if you let it. But, if you’re committed to making the change, it can happen very quickly. Results will come as fast as you choose for them to.

Opportunities

Continue to say your affirmation and as you do start to look for opportunities. Opportunities are everywhere. You just have to learn to recognize them and be ready to take advantage of them. “Money likes speed” so don’t worry about the “how,” if an opportunity arises grab it. Have faith that the “how” will take care of itself.

As you see more and more opportunities arise the “how” will finally become clear. The people, the places, and the things that you need to create wealth will fall in to place. Once these things fall in to place it’s time to make a definitive plan.

On the same card, you wrote your affirmation now write your plan. Repeat the affirmation as you had before except add the plan to it. Have faith that this will help you create the wealth and success you want. The more you say your affirmation the quicker you will change your old beliefs.

Once you change your mindset from passive to active you’ll soon believe that you are successful and the more you believe it the more successful you’ll be and the more abundance you’ll create.

For more information on how to actively seek abundance read
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

Can you see that all is mind?  Not a thousand minds, but one – and yet still ten thousand minds strong. We are as God’s mind, scattered into infinity like desert sand, endless potentials streaming, dancing through the void.” – Unknown

The Universal Conscious-Intelligence

One omnipotent Universal Conscious-Intelligence (UC-I) permeates throughout the universe. It is all knowing, all-powerful, all creative and always/all ways present. It’s referred to as the UC-I because you, me and everything else in the world is part of it.

This UC-I resides in every one of us. According to Genesis, we were made in Gods image. This is the image that the bible refers to, not a physical image, but an image of UC-I for which nothing is impossible.

As part of this UC-I, we have access to the limitless knowledge and creativity of God, Source, Jehovah, Allah, whatever name you choose. The UC-I of all things is present within us at all times in essence.

As One, we are connected not only to each other but to every single thing in this universe. The perception that our thoughts belong only to us is just that perception. There isn’t a single thought that flows through our mind that someone hasn’t had or isn’t having at the same time.

And this connection reaches beyond us to all that is. Humans, nature, animals, rocks, vegetable, mineral, are all made up of the very same thing at the core. The fact that humans feel separate is just a perception that we have been taught to see.

This may explain why animals, thought to be less intelligent than humans, know when a storm is coming long before even the most sophisticated radar can detect it. They’re still connected to nature in a way humans aren’t any longer. In the so-called human evolution, we have drowned out that part of our consciousness.

We’re no longer listening to ourselves. We’re too busy self-talking about all of our perceived problems to take a moment to be still and listen. Our mind is constantly racing from one thought to another searching for what we believe to be the answer.

If we would take a moment to be still and just listen, the UC-I would show us all the answers we’re looking for are right at our fingertips. The answers to every question, every problem we can conceive of is right there.

It’s our duty to tap into this UC-I. By doing so we will not only begin to manifest our lives the way we want we will also become part of the solution. The solution being that we are one less in the herd of negative collective consciousness.

Meditation is one of the best ways to tap in to the UC-I. I think this Alan Cohen quote says it all, “If you want to find God, hang out in the space between your thoughts.”  Through meditation, you quiet your mind enough to listen to what the UC-I is telling you.

If enough people can leave the herd of collective negative consciousness and at the same time tap in to the UC-I sharing thoughts of peace, harmony, happiness, and joy through this collective meditation we may actually change the world.

We will understand that it is because we are connected that we will achieve harmony for ourselves and create our ideal truth. Our experiences will be filled with joy and love. We all can achieve perfect health, abundance, wealth and anything else we desire for the world and ourselves.

By guest blogger
Gaylena Nia Collins

Living in Flow The Art of Allowing

Music, dancing and poetry are at their best when they flow in prefect rhythm, it gives them breath-taking equality. Life itself is just as beautiful and breath-taking as dancing, music or poetry, when you act from what “feels” right instead of what you “Feel” you MUST do.

It can be difficult to make a decision on something that for no explainable reason “feels” right. Especially if it has to do with life changing decisions such as moving, changing jobs, or simply acting on a hunch. Growing up, we are not taught to trust that everything will be fine when we act on a feeling or hunch.

Acting on your feelings doesn’t just apply to the big decisions or even to making decisions at all. It applies to EVERY area of your life. We are also not taught that when something falls though or goes wrong, we should trust that somehow everything will work out for the best in the long run.

Go With the Flow

All of my experience has taught me to go with the flow of life and trust in whatever comes your way. Trust it’s for your highest good. Trust in yourself enough that you will never worry about what comes because you will see yourself through. When something “feels right,” don’t question or second guess it. Just go with it. Sometimes things come your way that you don’t care for, don’t push against them.

Allow whatever “Is” to be there. Even if it is one of the worst things, you have to face.  Still, allow it to be. The universe never gives us more then we can handle at one time. Though you may feel this is untrue and don’t want it or want to deal with what is given. Instead, ask what you have to learn from the experience. To allow for the sake of allowing is one of the most powerful things you can do.

Negative things and happenings are only negative in your perspective. Nothing is ever either good or bad. It is your perception that makes you see it that way. And, when you stop seeing it that way, it will stop being that way for you.

As I look back at those times that I thought and felt were so hard to endure, I know now that I am very grateful for those hard times. All of my best lessons in life were learned in times of hardship and later became my greatest gifts. If you look really hard, you will probably find it is the same for you.

Hardships teach us about ourselves, about life and prepare us for what lies ahead. These are the lessons we need to know to be prepared. When the need arises, you will have the knowledge to deal with whatever life brings your way.

Pushing Against the Flow

When you are pushing against something you don’t want, that thing will persist. Moreover, when you are pushing you are not in flow. Pushing is like a dam blocking the natural flow of water from going where it needs. That is not allowing. It’s going against the current or otherwise going upstream. It’s not effective or effortless.

It does not mean you have to like “What Is.” But, if you accept, you cannot help or change it and simply allow it to be, it will run its course much quicker. Because trying to push away what you don’t want or like will only make it stay longer than necessary.

It takes constant practice to trust in the universe and in your own strength. You have to have faith in the process. Have faith that everything is happening for your highest good and allow it to be what it is, go with it, and go with the flow.

The universe is always working in your favor. Whether you see it or not does not mean it isn’t working. It loves you and loves giving you what you want. Sometimes that means you have to face hard truths about Self and life, so you can better reach your destination.

Sometimes along the way to the bigger picture, we need to face ourselves and release things from the past and embrace what is NOW. Other times we need to learn a new way of seeing, being, thinking, feeling, and taking action. But it cannot be learned if you are resisting the lessons, you need to learn from.

When you reach those times, take time to get quiet and ask yourself, what you might be resisting right now. REALLY allow yourself to answer. Ask yourself how you can better allow and most of all ask what these things have to teach you.

Nothing is given us that we can’t handle. And what is, is given for a very good reason. It may be to learn your best lesson. Allow it to be and look for what it might have to teach you that you might not have been willing to learn. Release any judgment and resistance.

A Place of Pure Love

Get quiet, clear your mind, find your center, and look within. Then look out to the world from that perspective. For you can only affect what is without from what is within. Choose not to see things the way you did before. Choose instead, to see them from a place of love. Allow this love to be love in its purest form.

Keep in mind that when you are resisting it engages your mental and emotional energies. Resistance steals away your energy and focus. The same energy and focus you could be using in all other areas of your life and sending out to others.

Resistance steals away your creativity and in the same instance, it blocks the natural flow of energy from moving. As you can imagine you have a lot of creative energy that you can direct any place you choose. But while in resistance, you have no energy to use.

Resistance is the one thing that effectively stops your energy. It keeps your focus stuck on the thing you are resisting. In this case, the only thing you experience is what you are resisting. It becomes your only reality. Effectively stopping your natural flow and keeping it in one place. Once you accept what you are resisting, your blocked energy is released to flow naturally again.

7 Things to Help You Move Forward

Here are 7 things you can do to improve your experience.

Practice getting quiet daily, going to the silence within, and asking your heart what it wants.

In silence, ask your heart or the universe what you need to be open to, and/or what you might be resisting.

Be more aware of what pulls at your heart. Follow through on it.

Acknowledge and accept what is and simply allow it to be.

Most of all give yourself time and love. Acknowledge that it takes time to learn a new way of doing things. Be non-judging with yourself and in your actions when you forget to accept things you would rather not experience, things such as hardships or lessons that come your way.

Even if you are resisting, commit to yourself that you will be aware of how doing that and anything else, makes you feel.

Gaylena is a Soul Coach and freelance writer who specializes in personal development and the Law of Attraction. Read Gaylena’s posts at Ascendiwill.wordpress.com

The deep seeded need to be right stunts your growth as an intellectual being. Without an open mind and willingness to see the views of others you cannot learn or develop new ideas never growing beyond what you are at this very moment.-SL Taylor

The Need to be Right

The need to be right all the time could be considered a violent act. If you have this overwhelming need you feel that your very survival as an individual depends on being right. You attack the views of others using your words as weapons. And you’re willing to fight to the death, the death of relationships with friends, family, and co-workers.

Your mind is closed to any ideas other than your own. And you have an uncontrollable need to hear at all costs that you’re right. You lack the capacity to be compassionate and to give of yourself. And because of this, you’re unable to allow yourself to move forward and live the life you desire.

The need to be right is nothing more than an idea that has manifested over time into a limiting belief. The belief that your worth as an individual depends on being right.  This belief has been cultivated for so long that it’s limited your growth as an intellectual being. Rather than making you stronger, this belief has literally closed you off from others and made you weaker.

This need to be right at all costs attitude also keeps you from becoming the person you were meant to be. Because you’ve closed yourself off so much you’re unable to find your Source. Without access to your Source, you cannot move forward and you just keep limiting yourself. And your worth as an individual is really at stake.

The Muddy Hole

When you have this overwhelming need to be right you are unable to learn, to be creative, to have any potential at all. You’re simply stuck in a muddy hole, with no possible way out.

Let’s think about this: your driving along when out of nowhere comes a torrential rain. The road floods quickly and you’re just convinced that if you keep going you’ll drive out of it. When the next thing you know, you’re stuck in a muddy hole.

Again, you know that if you just keeping spinning your wheels that you’ll be able to pull yourself out of the mud and keep going. Even though all signs say, you’re just burying yourself deeper. But because you’re convinced, you’re right you keep at it until the car is buried so deep you can’t even open the doors to get out.

Now that sounds somewhat ridiculous doesn’t it? But every time you insist on being right without considering any other points of view, you’re just burying yourself deeper. The deeper you go the darker it gets until you can’t find any light to show you the way out.

Allowing Yourself to Grow

When you bury yourself in the need to be right, you essentially turn yourself off. You shutdown, stop growing and burn out. Just like a computer, that doesn’t receive regular upgrades to its software. You just keep running the same old programming and eventually become obsolete.

Allowing others to have their own ideas and opinions doesn’t have to threaten yours. How many ideas have you changed over the years? The more you upgrade your software, the longer you’ll run. And the more expanded you’ll become.

There really is nothing wrong with being wrong. In your quest to be right, you’re generally wrong more often than not, because you refuse to learn from your mistakes. The only real way to be right is to listen to others and allow.

Allow them to have their own feelings and beliefs and listen to what they have to say. Just by listening, you will begin to think. Thinking is what expands us as individuals. And once you finally begin to expand your own thought process, you’ll get more in touch with your Source.

And then you’ll understand that wisdom is one of the most right things around. When you have wisdom, you no longer have a need to justify anything. The need to be right fades away and the need to grow and expand your knowledge replaces it. The more you expand yourself the more compassionate you become and the more you can allow yourself to be the person you were meant to be and begin living the life you desire.

You may think you’re afraid to fail, but in truth, you’re really afraid you’ll succeed. Without failure, there can be no success.
—SL Taylor

How to Allow Success

Success in general is the one thing that seems to elude most people. It doesn’t matter whether it’s personal success or business success. In this post, I’m going to tackle business success. But this information can be used to create personal success as well.

Only 10% of Ivy League graduates become successful. And out of that ten percent, only 1% actually develops enough wealth to be considered truly wealthy meaning they have a net worth of $5 million dollars or more. If education doesn’t guarantee success, what does?

The only real guarantee for success is a burning desire to become successful. The ultimate belief in yourself that you are successful not that you’re going to be successful but that you already are. If you believe anything else either consciously or unconsciously then the likely hood of finding lasting success is almost nil.

Cultivating this belief requires work on your part though. First, you have to learn to change any self-limiting beliefs that you may have. Self-limiting beliefs are negative thoughts that you have consistently had over time and allowed to manifest into full-fledged beliefs.

Learning to change these beliefs is easy. Actually changing them is the hard part. But if you’re willing to be consistent, it can be done. Any limitation you put on yourself is actually just imaginary. The reality is that you are full of potential and can do anything you set your mind to.

When you have a clear-cut purpose, you’ll find your way around any obstacles that present themselves. It’s all about your personal perception and beliefs. If you think you can you’ll be able to. If you think you can’t you won’t be able to. It all depends on what you’ve taught yourself to believe about your abilities.

Resolve or Resistance

As two people encounter the same difficult situation, they may react completely differently. One may approach the situation with a sense of resolve, the other with a sense of resistance. The one who chooses to be resolved about the situation will look for a solution and keep looking until they find one. They will perceive the difficulty as a learning opportunity and easily move past it and on to the next opportunity.

But the one who resists perceives the situation as a real problem something they can do nothing about. They become stuck in the situation and think they have no way out. They allow this thought to take over and begin believing that they really don’t have any means to resolve the issue. This leads to more negativity and a defeatist attitude.

As they begin to feel this way about their situation they begin to think this is their reality. When that happens, they feel defeated, their feelings lead them to make the choice to believe that they will remain stuck in their present situation possibly forever. Once they choose to believe this then they begin to make it their reality. This is how self-limiting beliefs become embedded in your thoughts.

Changing Self-Limiting Beliefs

First, you must learn to identify them. Fortunately, for most people this won’t require years on the couch in psychotherapy. But make no mistake it does take persistence to deal with self-limiting beliefs.

The easiest way to identify them is to challenge every negative feeling that you have. This means that if you’re not already you need to be in touch with your feelings. You instinctively know when you feel good and when you don’t. When you don’t, stop and pay attention to how you’re feeling and what you were just thinking that brought up the negative feeling.

Then challenge that thought. You must challenge each and every self-limiting thought you have. Counter it with a thought that’s better. It doesn’t have to be much better it just has to be better than the thought you’re currently thinking. For instance, there’s a posting for a new position at your company.

You’d like to apply for it, but you’re feeling that resistance kick in. You start thinking I’m not qualified. Or, I’m not smart enough to learn all that’s required. Or, they’d never hire me any way. Or, I wouldn’t fit in. What ever resistant thought or belief you have.

Now, every time one of those thoughts (or beliefs) rises up say to your self, “that’s not true. I have many of the skills that they’re looking for.” And write down on a piece of paper all the skills you currently have that would transfer to a new position. Or if you believe you’re not smart enough, say to yourself, “that’s not true, I’ve learned so many things.”  Then begin listing some of the many things you’ve learned. It can be about the new job, or it can be about anything at all.

Do this with every self-limiting thought you have. Once you’re able to see in writing that all the things you believed to be true really aren’t then you’ll realize that you can do anything you desire. And if success is one of those things you have a burning desire for, you will no longer fear it. You’ll resolve yourself to the fact that you can easily be as successful as Bill Gates. That is, if you believe you can.

For more on how you can allow success into your life read Bob Proctor’s best seller:

Become a Magnet to Money
Through the Sea of Unlimited Consciousness